I am 24 and have been living with my husband for 4 years. He is 27 and says that he cannot go a day without sex. He always wants sex every day and when I complain or tell him I don’t feel like it he starts acting up and quarrelling me. For him it does not matter what time of the month it is all he ever wants is sex whenever I am near him. Yes, he forces me into it even when I am on my days and has cheated so many times that I even lost count. I don’t like sex as much as he does and this has become a problem in our relationship. I am not sure if I want to get married to him as I just cannot cope with this no matter how hard I try. Please advice as I am not sure I want to get married to him someday.
WHAT THE READERS SAY:
Milka, now that your fiancé will never stop asking for sex no matter what and even goes as far as cheating on you, it can only get worse. If I were you, I would have looked for a compatible mate who will make me his respected and happy wife. Someone who will care about your feelings and love you for you not for what you give him.
That man does not love or even care for you. He seems to be addicted to sex and for him, it is just a game. If he cares for you he would want to talk you to his level of needs then you would have no problems participating. He has turned you into a sex slave and I encourage you to run. Imagine he is making such demands even before marrying you, what will happen when you are married to him?
All you need to do is tell him the truth. You cannot live life pleasing people left and right. By the end of the day what you do is pay up for the lost time sister. Get yourself together and go. You have left this habit to go on for far too long. You ought to have made things clear from the start. Sit him down and tell him what you think and feel.